Oh, I danced in my house, by myself, but I didn’t like dancing in front of people. I was so inhibited about dancing in public that I’d not go to clubs with friends. If I did have to go, to avoid being rude, I’d either sit at the table and nurse a drink, or I’d go quietly to the corner or back of the dance floor. Anything I could do to not be noticed.
It’s not that I thought I was a bad dancer. I have good rhythm. I am comfortable moving in my body. I was just terrified of people watching me dance. It just seemed like a very private thing.
I think in my head I thought I was this incredible dancer, but I was afraid I actually looked like Elaine Benes (if you watch Seinfeld, you know what I’m talking about!).
Then a friend of mine, who is an amazing dancer, invited me to a dance class with a dance and drum group she was involved with. It was her birthday. I went to class.
That dance class changed my life. I learned how to dance that day.
With the support of my friend, and under the guidance of my incredible teacher, I opened up. I let go of my inhibitions. I let go of the fear that surrounded me whenever I had to dance in front of people. I even joined the PERFORMANCE group.
My dance teacher gave me wings and taught me how to fly.
I have not looked down, or back, since. I have been dancing, at least once a week, ever since that day six years ago. Dancing has become an important part of my life. I now dance in front of people and love it. I still dance at home all the time too, but it is infused with a sense of lightness that I never had before.
I was 40 when I learned to let go and dance. It is never too late to open up, let go of old fears, find a new love, and fly.
What about you? Is there a love you discovered later in life? Or is there something you are afraid to try?